Forever Beloved

Faith, Love & Truth

dealing with difficult people

sometimes people come into your life and, just having them there, makes your life more difficult. maybe they are judgmental, drama filled, critical, needy, demand more than you can give or maybe they are just plain mean.  how do we deal with those people as Christians?

drama wears me out honestly.  and i have very little desire for it in my life.  and once it happens, if you’re like me, you pray for them to change.  for God to show them what they are doing wrong.  and that He’ll lay it on their heart to change.

but…what if this is about you?

what if this difficult person was placed directly in your life for a reason?  God might be allowing the difficulties in the relationship to work in your life.  when rocks are tumbled, they become smooth and beautiful.  people are the same way, when someone rubs them the right way, over time they change.

so in the midst of that difficult situation with that oh-so-difficult person, ask yourself what God wants YOU to learn from it.  doesn’t that make your view of the situation different?  i think the first thing we must do when faced with a difficult person, is hit our knees and Pray for God to reveal what He wants US to know, how He wants US to handle it and ask for His grace to shine through us.
out for now
~kisses
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i am {still} the same me

yes, this is me…

this does not make me less of a Christian
does not mean i love God any less
does not mean i’m a “bad person”
does not mean i’m not thankful for my blessings
does not mean i’m a scary person
does not mean it was done out of spite
does not mean i’ve been magically transformed into a different person

this was simply done because of a few reasons…

i love God
i love my husband
i think Song of Solomon is beautiful
and i love self expression

plain and simple, that’s it…

if you feel the need to judge me because of it, i’m so sorry…
i don’t judge you for what food you eat, or what car you drive
and i hope for the same respect in return
we weren’t put here to judge each other
we are to, as Christians (even tattooed Christians) lift each other up
regardless of the situation

i am me, and this is who i am
i am a beautiful daughter of the king
who has a tattoo
i am thankful for every single thing i have in my life
every single day i live and love is a complete joy
i love and accept myself completely and unconditionally
i am super excited about my path and where the Lord is taking me

out for now
~kisses

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cherishing your vows {celebrating}

celebrating love rejoices in the marriage relationship and helps spouses feel cherished and captivated.  your marriage is a lifelong commitment, not something you can trade in when it’s lost it’s shine.  it’s up to you to keep that sparkle there.

I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine: he feedeth among the lilies.
Song of Solomon 6:3

here are a few keys to help you truly celebrate your marriage…

*  make each other a priority
your love for your spouse should be right under your love for Jesus.  so many times we think our kids should come first when actually our spouse should.  if we keep our marriage strong then we’ll establish a strong family base for the children to learn from.

our love doesn’t automatically keep growing for each other, you have to continually work to keep it going strong.  don’t let your marriage be taken over by boredom.  it’s up to you to keep that from happening.

it’s love that protects you and your spouse from drifting apart and enables you to fall in love and feel discovered all over again.  be thankful every day for the marriage God has given you.
*  get to know each other all over again
take it back to square one.  what made you fall in love with your spouse?  many times it’s easy for us to let “life” get in our way and forget those old feelings…the butterflies…the reasons we fell in love. your vows and your marriage sustain the love.  stir up those old feelings.  study him and what he enjoys.  work alongside each other.  listen to each other (i mean really listen, sign off facebook and devote every second to him).  go away together.  and let your husband know just how much he means to you. commit to being the wife you vowed to be.
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
Proverbs 5:18-19
*  pray for each other and with each other
i think praying with each other is such an intimate, beautiful thing.  pray with your husband, for your husband and for every single thing you can think about that involves your husband.  pray for his temptations, thinking, actions, language and attitude.  
*  ignite intimacy

the world does it’s best every single day to degrade our marriage bed.  it certainly doesn’t want us to keep our marriage bed pure.  refuse to give in and allow those things to come into your marriage.

And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.
Mark 10:8-9 
pray about intimacy in your marriage.  i would have never, in a million years, imagined praying about intimacy with my husband until i thought about it like this…God created it, i’m sure He isn’t embarrassed about it.  pray  for more intimacy and to better understand each others needs.

just one more piece of advice…sex is something as wives we should make a priority. God intended sex to create a oneness within our marriage. we don’t want to feel deprived and neither do our husbands. remember “What God has joined together, let no one separate”. you are one with your husband. and we are to hold fast to our husbands!

this weeks challenge:  this week put time and energy into your marriage and make it your number one priority.  plan some “get away” time with your spouse this week, take time to talk without interruptions and spark intimacy.

out for now
~kisses

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