Forever Beloved

Faith, Love & Truth

a proverbs 31 woman

i sure hope you’re enjoying this journey through Proverbs 31 as much as i am. i’m super excited to continue this week with one of my fav topics, marriage. let’s take a look at the next two verses.

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 
Proverbs 31:11-12

so the absolute first attribute we see of this woman is that her husband has full trust in her. he can trust her with his money, his children and basically with his life. being trustworthy is such a blessing to your husband. how do we become more trustworthy? by mirroring God.

she brings him good, not harm, ALL the days of her life. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. but for the Proverbs 31 woman, she is in it for the long haul. for better, for worse…for richer, for poorer…in sickness and in health…all the days of her life. she remains faithfully at his side. and he has confidence that she will always be there.

even if we have an unsaved or difficult husband, we are still to remain faithfully by his side. if we mirror God then he will see Christ through us. all we can do is follow Gods word and let the rest up to Him.

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
1 Peter 3:1

we are to partner with our husband, be reliable, look out for him and give him security. those things will mean much more to him than money. respect him and be his helpmeet. help his heart be at rest. she selflessly gives him more than she takes.

the Proverbs 31 wife isn’t vindictive or selfish. she only wants the well-being and comfort of her husband. she strives oh-so-hard to make her home a haven of joy and happiness for her husband to return home to at the end of the day. there is a quote by martin luther that i love…let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.  that quote is a perfect example of a  Proverbs 31 wife.   
she doesn’t love her husband with conditions and she doesn’t hold grudges. God wants our love to be sweet, soft-hearted and lovely. and He wants it overflowing with forgiveness. by offering forgiveness, we are offering the grace that God has given us. the Proverbs 31 wife doesn’t cling to prior offenses, tucking them in her pocket to use later. she wipes the slate clean as soon as the offense happens. she knows that will not only set her husband free, but her as well.

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13

don’t forget to stop back next friday as we take a look at more virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman. remember, keep your eyes on Him throughout the week and love God greatly!

out for now
~kisses

{semi} wordless wednesday

out for now
~kisses

15 TINY WAYS TO BLESS YOUR HUBBY

as mothers day approaches and we think of gifts being bestowed on us, let’s switch it up and use this opportunity to bless our husbands.  i mean, without them we wouldn’t be mothers.  sometimes as life gets in the way, we forget how important it is to show our love just how much they mean to us.  let’s use mothers day as a springboard to show your husband a little extra love and remind him (and maybe you) of how thankful you are for him. you can communicate your love in so many ways other than speech and i just bet he would be super excited that you did.  

* tell him the ways you can see him growing to be more like Christ

* speak kindly about him and praise him to others

* wash his truck for him.  although, if he is one of those guys that is psychotic about his vehicle, he might not so much see this as a blessing.  so maybe just buy him an air freshener or better yet, armor-all  🙂

* pray for him and maybe as a bonus, write that prayer down on a note and stick it in his lunchbox 

* meet him at the door with a kiss and a smile.  who cares if you gross your kids out, i think kids benefit from seeing their parents be affectionate with each other.

* tell him how proud you are of him, thank him for everything he does for his family, express your loyalty to him and tell him that you will always be his biggest cheerleader

* a racy text message or a little racy entry onto his list for the store. fyi…don’t do this if your husband, for some insane reason, will just hand said list to the clerk behind the counter. not only will they get a chuckle at your expense when he says “ummm, we don’t sell that here” buuuuuuuut you will never be able to enter that store again. not that i would know or anything. just sayin’.

* write an encouraging verse, sneak out and stick it on his steering wheel so it will be there for him the next morning as he leaves for work

* shave your legs, do your hair, put makeup on and put on that outfit of yours that he just loves
* give him an impromptu backrub 
* bite your lip and don’t nag or complain.  i know, this one can be a challenge.  especially for this big-mouthed girl.  but if i can do it, i’m certain anyone of ya’all can do it.
* serve him his plate first at the dinner table
* hold his hand
* initiate great sex…yep, i went there…no sense in sending a racy text or making an embarrassing list if you’re not going to follow through with it
* think about what you’ve don’t that has either hurt him or annoyed him.  ask him if you need to.  then apologize and work hard to change that, allowing him to see the change in you.
out for now
~kisses