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October 4, 2015

A Letter to my Future Daughter-in-Law

To my sweet, sweet future Daughter-in-Law,
Years ago, as I held that sweet little toe-headed boy in my arms and gently rocked him to sleep, I knew some day I would hand him off to you.  And at that moment, I began praying for you.  As I watched my son grow, I prayed that God would create a woman to love him just for who God made him to be, and that He would bring you both together in His timing.

There will come a day when this boy will be yours. The newborn in my arms in the shadows of midnight, the blur of blonde hair racing down the stairs in Barney pajamas on Christmas morning, the jeans and tractor shirt wearing preschooler not sure why he has to go to school and the eight-year-old tenderhearted boy refusing to spar a girl. That sweet boy will be yours. He will always be mine, but you will take my place in many ways.

It will be you to comfort him when he’s scared.  It will be you who kisses him goodnight.  It will be you he shares his dreams and aspirations with.  It will be you who holds his heart.  The same heart that beat against my chest as I rocked him to sleep each night.  It will be your eyes that are his peace.  It will be your heart that is his home.  
Sweet girl, that is now you.

Right now, you are everything to your parents.  And how I pray you are cherished, loved on, praised and upheld.  I pray you are being taught that you’re a daughter of the King.  I pray you are shown and told what a gift you are.

I am raising my son to view you that same way.

His Dad and I also did our best to show him what a Godly marriage looks like. It wasn’t perfect by any means, but it was full of love, joy, peace, forgiveness and selflessness. Marriage isn’t something the world holds in a very high esteem, and certainly not Christian marriages. And there will be obstacles thrown in your way. But when it’s a marriage centered with Christ those obstacles can be overcome.

Sweet girl, I’m so thankful for you! I promise to let him leave, and cleave! His father and I want to always be a support to you both, and don’t think for a minute that if you have children that we won’t be the best grandparents in the world! But we know that our role changes when you say your vows to one another. We will love you and help you, even if that means stepping aside when we want to jump in. And I have a feeling this “fix-it-Mama” will have to sit on her hands to keep from doing that. But no matter what, we promise to love you both and to encourage you together as a family!

Treat yourself with the respect that you deserve as a lady. Don’t unwrap the beauty of who you are for anyone else. My son has been taught to do the same for you. Please please protect your heart, your mind and your body.  It will be worth it. Look forward to the amazing man that awaits you! There are so many good and wonderful blessings ahead for you. I already know that you are one of the best blessings for me too.

I love you, my daughter-in-law. If I didn’t, I could never pass on to you my most precious son. 

Filed in: marriage, parenting, Uncategorized • by Amy • Leave a Comment

September 30, 2015

A Letter to My Future Son-in-Law

To my dear sweet future Son-in-Law,

I don’t know you yet, but already, I love you. I love you so much, because some day, you will love my daughter. And she will return that love.

Do you know I’m praying for you right now and have been since you were just a young boy? I’m praying not just for the sake of my daughter and her happiness, but also for your heart. You will be the father of my grandchildren, and very much a well-accepted part of our family. You will not only be my son-in-law, but will become part of this family and considered a son.

For years I’ve told my daughter that right now, at this exact moment, God is preparing a sweet boys heart just for hers. Two hearts that will perfectly fit together. A boy that God is giving the same morals and values He’s given to her. I am already so excited for the life you’ll give my sweet girl.

I can tell you must be a very special person to have gained (and kept) sweet girls attention. I asked her one day what she was looking for in a boyfriend and her answer immediately made me think it would take a special, godly man to meet those standards. She knew, and wasn’t afraid to say, her first kiss would be saved for her wedding day. She wasn’t interested in “dating around”, she was interested in finding a husband-worthy man. Said man would have to ask her Dad for permission to date her and the dates would need to be supervised. She is a determined girl, you’ll learn that about her.

But first, there are a few things you must know. You have to know just how much we love and adore our sweet girl. There’s not a thing in this world we wouldn’t do to see her waking every morning with a smile on her face and to have every day fill her heart with complete joy. Although I must warn you, the morning smile takes a few minutes to surface. And once it does, there isn’t any stopping it.

Dear Son, I know at first you’ll be more interested in how gorgeous she is on the outside. And she sure is. But trust me, she is breathtakingly beautiful on the inside, too. As you get to know her, you’ll learn the way her heart beats for what she’s most passionate about.

  • She loves her Jesus and has a deep, personal and authentic relationship with Him.
  • God gave her a heart for children with special needs. And she will do anything to brighten their day.
  • She is a family girl through and through. She is incredibly close with her father and I and has an unstoppable bond with her brother.

But I will warn you, she’s a pistol!

Don’t be shocked when you come home from work one day to discover she’s rescued every stray animal she came across that day. Her heart for animals is large. Perhaps just figure on building her a barn straight away to house all the animals she’ll rescue over the years.

At this point, it’s too soon to tell what kind of a homemaker she’ll be. I can assure you you’ll be eating well, even if you have to step over shoes to get to the table. If you’re okay with tripping over piles of clothing or finding candy wrappers strung about the home in various places, she’ll be forever grateful for your grace, I’m sure.

I can tell this…never, ever even think of whistling in your home. Humming and back-pats are also strongly discouraged. If you do any of those three things, I will sadly not be able to protect you. Perhaps as you offer her grace on the housekeeping end, she’ll offer you grace in these areas.

There will be days of music blaring dance parties. I apologize for that. I may have influenced that at a young age. I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree on that aspect.

This I will tell you for sure, when she falls in love with you, she’s yours. She’s honest to the core, and will never lie to you or betray you. She’ll be a devoted wife and an amazing mother to your children. She will work hard to show her love to her family and will likely have taken after me when it comes to shoving holiday traditions down your throat. Smile and enjoy it. She won’t change. It’s a part of her upbringing and she loves to celebrate!

Please, dear future Son-in-Law, please, lead your family well.  My prayer is that you are a man who puts God first. I pray that you develop such a deep and intimate relationship with the Lord that you just want to continue to pursue him every single day. Invite God into the core of your marriage and seek Him in all things.  That pursuit will allow you to love my daughter in an amazing and powerful way.


Mostly, I ask that you love our daughter well. Seriously. Love her well. Listen to her when she shares her heart. Treat her with respect. Be gentle with her. Never stop telling her and showing her how much you love her. She knows what a healthy marriage looks like. She witnessed it growing up. Don’t let her down. I’ve been praying for you, Son. You can do this!

Until we meet one day,
Your Future Mother-in-Law

Filed in: marriage, parenting, Uncategorized • by Amy • Leave a Comment

September 6, 2015

To The Wife That Just Found Out

In the aftermath of the Ashley Madison hack, there are so many wives walking through the valley of brokenness right now. My heart breaks for their hearts. I’ve felt the nudge for a few days to write this article and today, I knew it was the right time.

The silent burden you’re carrying seems too heavy to lift some days. The hurt, the extreme hurt, seems to reach directly down to your bones. The knife stabbing pains of a broken heart. There are days where the pain literally takes away your ability to breathe.

Things that once looked so familiar to you now look like things you don’t even recognize. The coffee pot he made coffee in each morning while he was lying to you. The couch you snuggled on while watching tv while he was lying to you. The stairs you both walked up to your bedroom while he was lying to you. The socks he put on each morning while he was lying to you. Literally every single item in your house is filled with lies. And as you glance around each day, that is what you see.

Some might say take comfort in knowing you aren’t suffering alone, that there are so many other women across the US {including Anna Duggar} walking this same path. You find no comfort in that. None. Truth is the valley you are walking through is dark, cold, lonely and so very scary. Along the path is hurt, anger and bitterness.

Let me speak directly to your heart sweet girl. God wants to hold your broken heart in His hands. That is the only way. Listen to my words and let me say it again…that is the ONLY way. He can heal your broken heart and He will heal it. But first you must give Him all the pieces. The challenge is first finding all of the pieces. Like shards of broken glass, the pieces weave themselves so very deep into our hearts. And I’m sure Satan is right there, breaking the pieces smaller and hiding them better.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds
Psalm 147:3

The pain touches a deep, vulnerable place often known only to God. When hurting is the only thing you can feel, it is such a lonely place to be.

So many times when we are going through pain, we are told to get over it, move on and let it go. They don’t understand how slow this hurt heals. The world offers so many ways to numb the pain, but they are only temporary fixes. Please oh please don’t fall for that trap. And if we turn to them, then we aren’t allowing God to heal our hurt. Allowing Him to search and heal our hearts is the only true way to have them healed. Only He knows the deepness and complexity of our pain.

Don’t suffer through your grief alone. Don’t be unwilling to be vulnerable with God. And please, even though you are angry, don’t blame God. Give Him your heart, hand it over to Him to search and find all those little pieces of hurt and allow His hands to heal it as only He can.

Search me O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way
Psalm 139:23-24

When it feels like all hope is lost, hand that relationship over to God.  It’s so easy to make rash decisions while our heart is broken.  Many days, divorce sounds like the best and sometimes easiest option.  And maybe that will be the end result for your relationship.  If it is, cling to God like never before and allow Him to carry you through it.  But maybe God has a beautiful reconciliation full of grace planned for you.  Often times the relationship, once it has endured the storm, will come out of it stronger and new. Through all the conversations, all the deepness, you now know each other differently. This is the blessing of true healing from the hands of God.

At times, taking it day by day seems like such a big task.  Just take it minute by minute, and allow His grace to carry you through each one.
I know even reading this post made your heart ache and the tears flow.  I wish so very much I could reach through this screen and give you a big hug and just cry with you.  One day the hurt will be a little less, I promise.  And that will feel like the first “good day” you’ve ever had.  And each week, there will be more glimpses of sunshine.  Eventually your good days will run together, and smiles and laughter will abound.  Trust me, you will get there if you allow God to heal your heart.  He brings beauty from the ashes.

You will move on past this.  You will hold your head high, knowing the storm may have knocked you down but it didn’t win.

Filed in: marriage, Uncategorized • by Amy • Leave a Comment

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